During weekends we are so busy with personal schedules, kids’ schedules, relative or friends visits, and so on.
Surprisingly, last weekend I had nothing planned, nothing scheduled. I even didn’t set the alarm clock and just woke up when I got enough sleep.
The kids were at a sleepover; my husband was on a business trip, our dog at the vet. No one to disturb my laziness in the bed. I don’t remember how long I stayed in bed just lying down and enjoying the “me time”. After taking a long bath singing and whistling, I had breakfast with a “hot” cup of coffee reading newspaper in peace, then did some gardening, fed the birds. I asked myself “What do I want to do next?” Oh my goodness! “I want to do…”
I repeated it for many times since I got the idea. I had time to do what I wanted to do. It didn’t happen in along time . I decided to take a walk at the town center and cycled there. While I walked around I noted brand new cafes (at least for me, I had no clue when they were open), many events announced on floor sign holders, some gift ideas for upcoming friends’ birthdays.
I just wasted time, wasted my weekend but I felt better. This wasted weekend helped me build a happier me, a more energetic me, a more optimistic me. My husband told me that I look different when he got back home, my kids asked me if grandma was coming as I had a big smile on my face with shiny eyes.
No! It’s none of those things. It was just my first appointment with myself, on my own. Recent research has shown that women today are less happy than they had been over the past 40 years. What do you think? What could be the main reason? The stress put on us? We are mothers, we are wives, we are friends, daughters, professionals, neighbors…
When did you last take care of yourself? You don’t remember, right? Me neither That’s why I decided to have a “me time” at least once in a month. I will start with the book club that I saw on a frame poster stand. I have already called them and booked for the next meeting.
Are you with me? Or against me? Will you give yourself a chance to have an occasional break? It’s just for sanity’s sake. All you need to do is to accept that you are a priority too. Plan whatever you want to do or do not plan anything and just waste your time. You’ll see that it is not a waste of time at all in the end. It’s a “me time” to help you recharge your battery. Bake, cook, read, walk, ride a bike, paint, take a shower or a bath, meet friends, stay alone… It’s your own time.
Keep in mind: when you are happier, your family is happier. The flight safety requirement applies for your daily life: fit your oxygen mask before helping your children. And in my humble opinion keep an eye on floor standing brochure holders. You never know what they will bring you.